Right, I must admit that I was pretty amazed to find a woman in a polygynous marriage and a convert and lives in USA (where polygyny / polygamy is outlawed - CMIIW) and happily blogging about it .
Was speechless for quite sometime.

Anyway, the blogger that goes by nickname Mizazeez (Miss Aziz ?) seems to be quite happy with her current situation. She was devastated when first knew about her husband’s intention to marry again, but then chose logic instead of uncontrolled emotion, and managed to get over it.
She even took time to explain the popular hadith touted as the base to abhore polygamy : the Ali - Fatima - Abu Jahl’s daughter hadith; where the hadith was usually presented as it is, she explained its context in details.

There are quite a lot of lighthearted and funny posts in her blog. For example, the one about her mother is quite funny. I do realize though that it’s a struggle to her. But she seems to handling it quite well, well done.

There are a few things we, men, can pick up from the husband. It seems that this man actually speaks Venusian; being able to act appropriately (instead of enraged/becoming a jerk) even when in awkward situations. Lots of other good examples from him throughout the blog. Recommended read.

All in all, both parties (husband and wife) seems to be putting their best efforts to make things works for them. I’m truly humbled to read how their marriage went - the humble & pious husband that’s gentle and care, the loving & (very) clever wife that’s very understanding about her husband’s situation (financial/time/marriage-wise).
That’s what marriage is all about - teamwork, co operation. It’s going both ways. If it started flowing just from one direction, then it’s the beginning of its end.

I’m very glad to find such mature and understanding Muslim/Muslimah, in the blogosphere too. To these people I put my hope that one day in my life I’ll be able to witness Islam achieving its purpose - rahmatan lil ‘alamin; a blessing to the world. Here’s one hoping.

Another similar blog : Polygynous Expressions

And no, I still don’t think I’ll marry another woman, because I’m not able to properly do the related responsibilities. But I’m happy for everyone who’s doing good and not afraid to be bad-mouthed because of it. Barokallahulakum, brothers and sisters.

I was pretty shocked when the idea to ban proprietary kernel modules on Linux first surfaced. Binary hardware drivers and VMware came to mind - if the ban is in place, we won’t be able to use these. And many other kernel modules.

As if Linux hasn’t got enough problems regarding hardware drivers as it is.

I was just about to write a response to the idea, when I found out that Linus already rejected it. Seems like we can always count on the man to ensure that common sense is actually common in Linux community. Good for us.

And he didn’t mince his words :

Because I think it’s stupid. So use somebody else than me to push your
political agendas, please.

He’d like to keep Linux dev strictly technical. Couldn’t agree more:

We should make decisions on TECHNICAL MERIT. And this one is clearly being
pushed on anything but.

Here’s a reminder that this kind of thinking is exactly the way of thinking of the proprietary vendors :

If people take our code, they’d better behave according to our rules. But
we shouldn’t have to behave according to the RIAA rules just because we
_listen_ to their music. Similarly, nobody should be forced to behave
according to our rules just because they _use_ our system.

A sarcastic reminder on the consequences of these way of thinking :

Do you really want to argue that “everything that has touched anything
copyrighted AT ALL is a derived work”? Do you feel lucky, punk?

As now, the idea has been thrown away. That’s a relief.
Back to work…

References :
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Lagi sedih ? Bete ? Kenapa setiap hari selalu saja ada masalah ? Bagaimana caranya bahagia, setiap saat ?

Ada banyak cara orang untuk menjadi bahagia. Ada yang menjadi bahagia dengan mampir di mall favoritnya, dan shopping sepuasnya. Apalagi kalau pas lagi ada diskon 50%, wow. Kemarin saya juga melakukan ini ketika menemukan sebuah toko sepatu di Pondok Indah Mall yang sedang promosi BOGOF (Buy One Get One Free), lha kebetulan lagi perlu sepatu karena yang lama sudah butut. Untuk sepatu wanita malah cuma Rp 100.000 dapat 3, halah langsung terlampiaskan lah hasrat soulmate saya, he he.
Sudah murah, kualitasnya juga bagus pula. Bahagia? Jelas Tapi kalau setiap hari, tetap saja jadi berat di ongkos ya?

Ada lagi yang menemukan kebahagiaan dengan menikmati makanan yang enak. Ada yang dengan dugem dan nongkrong semalaman. Ada yang bahagia dengan bepergian ke luar negeri. Dan banyak cara lainnya.

Tetapi, apakah ada cara untuk bahagia setiap saat, dimana saja, kapan saja, dan tanpa biaya ?
Ternyata ada !

Sewaktu sedang browsing milis kampung gajah, tidak sengaja menemukan posting dari devykoe, dan tidak sengaja (lagi) terbaca taglinenya :

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the best way to cheer yourself up is to cheer somebody else up
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Straight to the point. Bahagiakan orang lain, maka kita pun akan merasakan kebahagiaannya.
Salah satu variasi BOGOF juga; yang dibahagiakan satu orang (orang lain), namun hasilnya jadi dua orang yang bahagia (orang lain dan kita).
Terimakasih pada mbak Devy untuk taglinenya.

Jadi, mari kita blogwalking dan membahagiakan orang lain *lho*