Right, I must admit that I was pretty amazed to find a woman in a polygynous marriage and a convert and lives in USA (where polygyny / polygamy is outlawed – CMIIW) and happily blogging about it .
Was speechless for quite sometime.
Anyway, the blogger that goes by nickname Mizazeez (Miss Aziz ?) seems to be quite happy with her current situation. She was devastated when first knew about her husband’s intention to marry again, but then chose logic instead of uncontrolled emotion, and managed to get over it.
She even took time to explain the popular hadith touted as the base to abhore polygamy : the Ali – Fatima – Abu Jahl’s daughter hadith; where the hadith was usually presented as it is, she explained its context in details.
There are quite a lot of lighthearted and funny posts in her blog. For example, the one about her mother is quite funny. I do realize though that it’s a struggle to her. But she seems to handling it quite well, well done.
There are a few things we, men, can pick up from the husband. It seems that this man actually speaks Venusian; being able to act appropriately (instead of enraged/becoming a jerk) even when in awkward situations. Lots of other good examples from him throughout the blog. Recommended read.
All in all, both parties (husband and wife) seems to be putting their best efforts to make things works for them. I’m truly humbled to read how their marriage went – the humble & pious husband that’s gentle and care, the loving & (very) clever wife that’s very understanding about her husband’s situation (financial/time/marriage-wise).
That’s what marriage is all about – teamwork, co operation. It’s going both ways. If it started flowing just from one direction, then it’s the beginning of its end.
I’m very glad to find such mature and understanding Muslim/Muslimah, in the blogosphere too. To these people I put my hope that one day in my life I’ll be able to witness Islam achieving its purpose – rahmatan lil ‘alamin; a blessing to the world. Here’s one hoping.
Another similar blog : Polygynous Expressions
And no, I still don’t think I’ll marry another woman, because I’m not able to properly do the related responsibilities. But I’m happy for everyone who’s doing good and not afraid to be bad-mouthed because of it. Barokallahulakum, brothers and sisters.