Sex Education

In English, Islam, Kids, Parenting

I’ve not yet encountered this event, but I know it will come sometime. One day, one of my children will ask about sex, and I will have to explain it to them. I’m not scared (well ok, not much 😀 ), but I think I’ll have the hardest time of keeping my face straight. :mrgreen:

Mbak Santi have endured this twice apparently. But her second event is more special, because Baby is an active and very inquiring little girl.
My jaw dropped at first when I read this article , and then I feel pain in my stomach as I was trying hard not to burst into laughter in my office room.

But I think you handled it alright mbak. Thanks for the ideas and inspirations ! 😀

note: here’s an article with photo of this very clever girl. May you grow to be a very good girl, insyaAllah.

56 thoughts on “Sex Education”

  1. Salam.

    My eldest girl, 8yo, asked me this question last week.”Do u and daddy show your body to each other?” and pointing to the private part too!!!! I was drving then, luckily i didnt brake too sudden but it did distract me from my driving.. Then the younger girl 7yo, keep pushing for answer,”So mummy, u do that? ha,ha ha???” Gosh! I dont even know how to begin!! In the end, I said, “Yes, we can show our body to each other because we are husband and wife…” Before I finish my sentence, they both went,” Euwwww….”

  2. Should we start a new blog, titled “Kids says the funniest things” then ??

    Great kids you have there 😀 and safe driving !

  3. Americans finally realize the try-before-you-buy works just as well with sex as it does with commodities. Rather than marrying and then shacking up with hot sex coming after the nuptuals, Americans are increasingly putting out before putting on the wedding rings.Women are just as likely as men to get it on before matrimony.
    I think this is just the sign of the times. I mean, we like to test things, try them out, before making a purchase. Why should sex and marriage be any different? The stigma associated with pre-marital sex is dead. Long live free love!

  4. nice site post have you ever thought about adding a free webcam to ur site?

  5. I could not imagine, I am glad I don’t have kids, I freak out when my boy dog sniffs my girl dogs private parts.

    ART!

  8. Why should you be scared that your children are going to ask about sex? We have always been a very open family and it has never been a problem for us!

  9. @nick – Not scared, but anxious of whether I’d be able to keep my face straight and not laughing instead 🙂 and whether I’ll be able to maintain enough composure to explain to them in coherently.
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    Honest ! 🙂

  11. I found your site on technorati and read a few of your other posts. Keep up the good work. I just added your RSS feed to my Google News Reader. Looking forward to reading more from you down the road!

  12. If your kids will come up with questions regarding sex, you need to remind them first that this is only for husbands and wives then point to yourself and your partner. that way, they will understand that it’s a married-grown-up thing and surely, they will go EuWWW!!!! and i agree with you, Nadia Abdullah!

    And don’t take it so bad, it only shows that our kids are attentive to things! we just need the right timing and the right words to explain it to them….

  14. I like this short but good post. My Child is 5 Years and the day will come soon to answer this questions.

  15. Hi , i student , so questions why you scared that you children are going to ask about sex? keep up the good work blog.

  19. Another viewpoint on sex education, historically inspired by sexologists like Wilhelm Reich and psychologists like Sigmund Freud and James W. Prescott, holds that what is at stake in sex education is control over the body and liberation from social control. Proponents of this view tend to see the political question as whether society or the individual should teach sexual mores. Sexual education may thus be seen as providing individuals with the knowledge necessary to liberate themselves from socially organized sexual oppression and to make up their own minds. In addition, sexual oppression may be viewed as socially harmful.
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    zada
    Adult Dating

  23. One very beautifull knowledge. I thank for the knowledge. Good days , I wish.

  24. You can teach them age-appropriate stuff. I’m a purity/abstinence advocate. When I was a child, my parents started teaching me when I was young: “boys and girls are different” kind of thing.

  29. Education is very important also about this. Because also this is a part of the life. Dont worry, I think we just have to teach how to do it secure and safe. I am sure they are clever to understand.

  30. And my 7-year-old boy had repeatedly asked me: what is sex. I asked where he heard the word. He said: on the radio. Then I explained that the sex – it is the relationship between men and women.

  31. Sex education is extremely important. In my childhood my Mother was forbidding me from watching films that were even slightly connected to sex and never answered my questions concerning everything that is connected to that matter. Now I have a complex: I just can’t talk with my Mum on that subject. I’ 21 and I never showed my girlfriends to Mum. I’m now dating with my girlfriend for 3 years now and still she haven’t seen my Mum yet. I just can’t discuss such themes with my Mum.
    So don’t make such mistakes with your child.

  32. @Kevin – I agree. I have 3 daughters, and abstinence program will benefit them greatly.
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    But it can not stand alone. It must be accompanied as well by knowledge. By knowing, hopefully then they will understand.
    And understanding something will make them wise on the topic.
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    I think our children should focus themselves on their own potentials. Only then they would be able to unleash their full capabilities.
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    Distractions – such as flirting, chasing opposite sex without understanding/knowledge; generally, time wasting; can do them serious harm in the long run.
    And we have seen the results so many times over. It always break my heart every single time.
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    May our children will be saved from such fate, amen.

  33. @Stalin – that’s sad. I think knowledge should be free & accessible for all.
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    Hopefully blogs like this can be of help to your people.
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    Thanks.

  34. It is good to give your children education when they are about 12 years. …

  36. i had to have the talk with my 11 year old son a few months ago, and it was the most awkward thing for the both of us! so I can only help but feel for you.

  37. Woah, that was some major weird questions from a girl of that age. But I guess it’s how things are. Nowadays children are much smarter than we were during that age.

  38. I could not imagine, I am glad I don’t have kids, I freak out when my boy dog sniffs my girl dogs private parts.

  39. I wanted to research this subject and write a paper. Your post what a thousand words would not. Nice job.

  41. Could you just try to find the documents using Google? Sometime it works better for me than trying to dissect it from the official website.

  42. Thank you for sharing these resources with us, and for reminding me that there are still many who can not get hard copy of the Quran, due to lack of money and possibly a lot of us doing much about it.

  44. I remember this conversation with my parents (way too late), at that time I almost knew everything and was like what else is new. I haven’t had kids but it seems a very sensitive subject!

  45. mean, we like to test things, try them out, before making a purchase. Why should sex and marriage be any different? The stigma associated with pre-marital sex is dead Term Papers

  46. @stella – Not all things can be tested first. For example; try testing an underwear, and then return it, saying that you don’t like it. Bet the store won’t accept it back 🙂

  47. i agree with you idea

    the parents should teach their children to know about the sex that can be protected them from the bad thing. And when the kids have grown, their will definitely understand what their parents tough to them when they were young.

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